Thursday, February 4, 2010

Simple truth.

Negativity breeds more of the same and this is the thorn in the side of weight loss, until that thorn is pulled out and we begin to look at our health or lack there of for what it is the fat wins and on we waddle down the road. I see people beating themselves up for not being able to reach a goal or keep weight off and truth be told as long as we make the best choices possible and honestly look at what we are doing weight loss really isn't that monster in the dark that so many of believe it is. After years of "trying" to lose weight what I have learned in the past 2 years is best said by Yoda "You must un-learn what you have learned, try not, do..or do not, there is no try" though good old Yoda was talking about the force it does stand as a true statement in my eyes for us not in the world of Star wars. Start out strong and have in the back of your mind that you will fail and guess what? ultimately you will fail, at whatever the task is, something that I have learned since starting down this path is that weight loss is more of a mental game than anything else. Wrap your head around the concept that this is how life will be lived from now until forever and its an easy thing to accept, its when you start looking at it as less than how life goes when people fail, not a hard concept.

I have changed my life in the past 2 years after years of being "the fat kid" all of my life and then leveling off at a robust weight for many years I was hurt and gained a lot of my 534 pounds. I hit a point where it was too much for me and my family and made the decision to do something about it and I did it, I did not talk about it, I did not say that I would try. My wife brought me that HUGE cup of morning coffee like every other morning in a string of bad mornings and I told her that I was done with all of that and it was time to start doing instead of trying. I know people that have tried to lose weight for years and I have watched them drop weight and then yo yo right back up again and this cycle is how they have lived for as long as I have known them, this is not how it works. I have attempted to drop weight before with varying results mostly made up of failed attempts and the difference from then until now is the fact that a decision was made this time around and that's that.

Don't lose weight because I am, don't do it because someone else wants you to do it, you have to do it for yourself and your own reasons first and this means putting your needs ahead of other peoples needs at least for a while until some habits are formed. Focus on the negative side of weight loss and all we would have to talk about is non fitting over priced clothing, breathing heavy from a trip to the toilet, Lots of thinking about exploding hearts, 5 feet long belts, greasy fingers covered in synthetic cheese dust and how fun it is to not be able to go to the movies at 500 pounds. Fat people already know all this shit and if we keep crying over the spilled milk on the counter instead of just wiping it up soon it will curdle, stink and be a bigger mess than it already is, instead I say get off your ass and walk if its all you can do, eat clean, drink water instead of sugar laced carbonated drinks and stop all of the complaining, it doesn't look good on you.

The moral of this little tale? don't worry about what cannot be done but what CAN be done and then execute and like Nike, just do it and leave the negativity out. The same situation can be seen by two individuals in completely different light, its like the two guys that work in the same office with a strict dress code and the one fella looks at it as "I have to get all dressed up in this monkey suit and tie to walk around with people that I play softball with on the weekends just so I can talk to people on the phone? blah I want my tee shirt and jeans! this is stupid" followed by the other guys opinion which is "This is great! I get to dress my best and walk around feeling like a million bucks in my silk tie all day! and I get paid for it?!" its all how we look at it. I see my weight loss program as "This is awesome! I get to eat fresh food that was prepared by me and drink as much tea as I want to! AND I get to workout and get that post workout high every day??!" as opposed to "I wish I could just strap this feed bag full of chicken mcnuggets to my face and drink a gallon of pepsi so that I don't have to get up from my couch and playstation!" yeah that second guy weighed 534 pounds and sat out of lots of things that he probably shouldn't have and I am choosing to not miss out on anything else.

What will you choose?

As Ever


  1. This is a very inspiring post! Thank you! I am also choosing positivity (maybe for the first time in a weight loss effort), and learning the difference between "trying" and "doing." Very important. I thought this post was amazing. Liz

  2. What an inspiring post - thank you!!

  3. Great post- I agree, I'm not TRYING anymore- I'm DOING it now!